Comments on: The Dreaded Incident Report

By: ladybughugs

ladybughugs — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 05:55:44 +0000

With Scout I realized most incident reports involved the same child, whether Scout was the agressor or not. I decided first, it’s up to the care-giver to make sure all the children are safe and second, you’re likely to lash out at whomever is closest when things take a turn or when you decide, ‘hey, I’ve had enough of this’ and don’t know how to say it. (He still has a scar, nine years later where a little girl turned around and scratched him because he was following too closely, in her opinion, up the ladder of the slide). So really, it’s best friends that bear the brunt of their frustration. Isn’t it that way with adults? Don’t we tend to hurt the ones we love the most? because they are the ones with whom we feel safest. they’re the ones least likely to walk away forever. they’re the ones with whom we can let our guard down and be ourselves.

Biting at that age is normal then they grow out of it and into the next stage.

By: Aunt Crazy

Aunt Crazy — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:20:10 +0000

Poor Thing 3. Such controversy. Musta been a great toy!! :)

By: jwg

jwg — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 16:43:38 +0000

that would be treat -see previous answer

By: New-Dad-Blog

New-Dad-Blog — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 20:50:09 +0000

What’s with kids and biting? Luckily, mine doesn’t have teeth yet.

By: jwg

jwg — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 19:29:07 +0000

In defense of the caregivers…I teach my students that in every day care’s handbook should be a statement that “BITING IS NORMAL TODDLER BEHAVIOR”. There is no way that 2 adults with 10 or more children can prevent all the biting incidents. The important question is how the biting is dealt with. Kids need help finding strategies to deal with frustration, and some kids don’t have good enough verbal skills yet to cope. The real problem is when biters get the same treatment as axe murderers . Now that the staff know that #3 has bitten I would hope that they pay some extra attention, but I hope they do not trat him as “the biter” but instead trat him as a child who needs to develop some coping skills.

By: Anon

Anon — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 04:53:35 +0000

At 20 months…? Daycare should be watching out for him to prevent the escalation of the incident to the biting point. I have a 6 yo, 4yo, and 19 mo (boy, boy, girl) and when the girl gets frustrated, she tries to bite. How else can they declare their boundaries when assaulted by others at 20 months? She sure isn’t about to come and tell me. I place the blame on the caregivers. Here at home, it’s up to me to mitigate that situation and help her learn better–same should go for daycare. Repeated offenses means lax supervision in my book.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 02:02:22 +0000

Oh yeah. DS was kicked out of daycare for biting and hitting. He’s over it now, but somehow I see trips to the principal’s office in my future.

By: VegasDad

VegasDad — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 23:27:05 +0000

Oh no. Bitting is bad. Z-Dub was bit quite a lot and school but has never gone pit bull on another kid, thankfully. Daycare takes it seriously. It’s grounds for expulsion for repeat offenders.